I got in my car after feeling particularly vulnerable and Shawn Mendez’ song, Mercy, was playing. In that vulnerable moment, the lyrics suddenly meant something different to me:
“Please have mercy on me
Take it easy on my heart
Even though you don't mean to hurt me
You keep tearing me apart
Would you please have mercy, mercy on my heart
Would you please have mercy, mercy on my heart.”
While the song is likely referring to a romantic relationship, I couldn’t help but apply it to myself in that moment. What would life be like if I had a bit more “mercy on me?” If I took it “easy on my heart.” We might believe that we wouldn’t want to hurt ourselves, but how often do our thoughts, judgments, or expectations lead us to stress, low self-esteem, or depression? The stress and anxiety that we can place on ourselves from our negative or irrational thoughts can feel like we are being torn apart. I sat in the parking lot for several minutes after the song ended reflecting on how often I use my thoughts to have mercy or grace for myself, versus how often I use my thoughts for judgment because I fell short of perfect, again.
I doubt I am alone in how my negative thoughts lead to negative emotions. In fact, an entire counseling theory, cognitive behavioral therapy, is centered around the theory that our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are all connected. By changing our thoughts, we can change how we feel and the actions we take. Our thoughts are powerful! I challenge you to take notice of your thoughts this week. Take notice of when you show yourself mercy and challenge yourself when your thoughts lead to negativity. I challenge you to have mercy on you, and to go easy on yourself.
Written by: Amy Rollo, M.A., LSSP, LPC-S
Clinical Director, Cy-Hope Counseling
Amy Rollo is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor and the Clinical Director at Cy-Hope Counseling. Amy has been practicing for over ten years. She has doctoral level training in the areas of child and adolescent counseling, marriage and family therapy, and adult counseling. Amy Rollo provides counseling and evaluation services in the Cypress, Texas and surrounding areas. Amy’s goal in counseling is to journey with her clients in order to foster positive changes and growth in their lives. Read more about Amy counseling style by visiting http://www.amyrollotherapy.com/about/